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In BBC interview, Leading Relationship Expert Claims Long Distance Relationships Can Be Healthy

One of the consequences of the global economic issues is that many couples find themselves in the difficult position of having to work away from each other. When it is a choice between paying the bills and living apart because you can get a short or medium term contract, there is often little debate.

Relationship expert Sue Ostler (see her new book Flirt Diva) took part in this weeks BBC documentary on long distance relationships, and was asked to comment on two areas. Firstly around the subject of flirting whilst your partner is away. As long as it is harmless flirting, it is a far cry from cheating. Sue argues that when it comes to cheating the distance has nothing to do with it. People in long distance relationships are more likely to flirt Sue says.

The second question posed to Sue is whether a period of time at distance is good or bad for a relationship;

“I’m a big fan of the long distance. If you can get through that you can get through anything. It provides a history that you can look back on, and you can look at each other and say ‘You know what, we survived that. Yes, I’d go the long distance relationship, I’d give it the 10 out of 10”.

To listen to the documentary visit the BBC website – 1Xtra – Long Distance Relationships

Flirt Diva by Sue Ostler

Flirt Diva by Sue Ostler

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Posted by on February 14, 2010 in Relationships and Dating


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How to flirt: lessons for women with The Guardian

Flirt Diva Sue Ostler is joined by Guardian journalist Helen Croydon out and about in London’s Covent Garden on a Friday night to try out Sue’s flirting techniques. Drawing from her new book ‘Flirt Diva‘ Sue takes Helen through her paces as a flirt class first-timer and takes on the ‘less sophisticated one-liner lads’.

“Ostler claims that learning to flirt should have a far higher-reaching aim than getting someone’s phone number. “It is about lighting the spark to your personality and letting people see it shine through. Flirting opens yourself up to new people and opportunities. What I teach helps ladies socially and in work situations.”

It seems then that flirting is more about learning to be liked, not learning to be fancied. From what I saw, the pick-up theory for the boys is far less advanced.

It’s worth reading through some of the comments on the article – we especially like the poor guy that tried to re-enact a scene from The Game. Full article here:

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Posted by on February 9, 2010 in Relationships and Dating


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Flirt Diva Comments on UK Sex Survey

We have a host of intersting authors with MX and the one with the most press coverage has to be Sue Ostler. Dubbed “Flirt Diva” by the press, Sue is the UK’s leading authority on flirting and is the relationship expert at the Metro.

When the latest UK survey on British attitudes to sex was published in January it was no surprise that they asked Sue to comment.

“In these recessionary times, people turn to entertainment and, in today’s society, that takes the form of sex. People want sex and they want it now – but they are time-poor. There’s not as much time to invest in meaningful relationships, so people are spending money on entertaining themselves through sex”.

Commenting on the traditional view of the British being very prudish about sex Sue added that people are more open about the issue now, with less stigma and shame these days.

The Metro feature also mentioned Sue’s Flirt Diva Academy which has helped thousands of women to gain the confidence to find a meaningful relationship by passing on the skills Sue has perfected working with some of the world’s most interesting divas including Kylie, Madonna and Pamela Anderson.

The survey confirms that while men are increasing looking for a sex as entertainment, the vast majority of women are still looking for that meaningful route.

Some of the key results from the survey:
–    51% of people are in favour of legalising prostitution
(56% men, 46% of women)
–    One third of men and 10% of women have bought pornography
–    10% of men have paid for sex compared to 1% of women

Flirt Diva by Sue Ostler

Flirt Diva by Sue Ostler

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Posted by on January 24, 2010 in Relationships and Dating


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